Culture is a beautiful thing. It’s where our origins lie. However, with everything, there is a positive and negative part of culturalism. Which not speaking on any other cultural behalf, I speak from my experience within my cultural realm. The beautiful thing about culturalism is that we all share both positive and negative aspects of that culture. Where no matter if your Latin, African American, British, French, ect…there are some similar aspects that culture uses to gain obedience.
Until finishing and reading the published form of my book “Journey of an Unraveled Road,” I began seeing some things that were predominant in social norms. The typical behaviors of gaslighting and bandwagoning. When looking at it on a smaller scale, I saw it was commonly used in my cultural background. Where looking at the folklore and the urban legend around the world, they all have a similar antagonist or a form of that antagonist, which saw an article on dark lullaby’s from BuzzFeed, had common denominators that lead to a similar antagonist. In many scenarios, a version of the boogeyman or the “Coo-Kuey” in Latin culture. But what is the culture, you ask. It is defined as the customs, arts, social institutions, and achievements of a particular nation, people, or other social groups. Which if you break it down, it becomes on a small scale. Family traditions. Which n many situations become generalized to fit social norms.
In many cases, especially when it’s those who gain a sense of “culturalization,” begin to simplify it as in my family dynamic. Turned to be “barbaric, boring, out-dated, or unorthodox.” Which the modern culture of things is using gaslighting and bandwagoning to get our way. Which if we look at it, these narcissistic behaviors have become part of modern-day culture.
Losing ancient traditions is very counterproductive. I feel like many of the findings report events that have repeated itself. Which, in a sense, was dismissed due to the idealisms that we had it under control as we depend on technology many of the time. But growing up in the Y2K era, many people freaked out when it was believed to shut everything ground, which ended up being a folktale. But if you look at the bigger scheme of things and reference our COVID Era. It’s easy to speculate that it predicted what was coming as the entire world shut down and ended up being a physical concern as the idealism of those who were not returning to work due to the scare.
I had everything from energy sources to gas being in jeopardy of not being distributed to carry on the everyday life we have grown accustomed to. Which one thing in the culture we gained is that we forgot as humans to adapt. Which, in the end, is the things that we need to stay alive in hard times. That the act of adapting is something that was gaslighting, making those taking extra precautions in worst-case scenarios deemed as “paranoid” and “crazy.” Which when COVID was first told that it hit the Americas, it resulted in growing a garden and stocking up on non-perishables and water. Which my friend at the time said, “You’re paranoid.” Which my rebuttal was ‘Better safe than sorry.” When it was time for quarantine, we were prepared and just needed to gather things like toilet paper. Which my Abuela already was ready to primal on our asses and said the things we could use for toilet paper. Where if water wasn’t running, had buckets filled with water that were sealed, and already prepped on making a commote, as Hurricane Harvey already taught me how to make in the worst-case scenario.
Thinking about these cultural norms we engage in, my life long friend and I had a conversation while I was taking her to work. About her aunt with cancer and how she covers her head. Which brought up the way the Latin culture handles the things they are not aware of, which is unfortunately through shaming, demonizing, victimizing, or even dismissing someone that they see as a threat. Where those with chronic and terminal illnesses get this too many times. But looking at the bigger picture, society does the same as this is an automatic defense mechanism that they get in fear and ignorance. You can tell someone till you are blue because you’re not contagious, but people will not believe you.
I blame those entitled asses who are either in denial or so jaded that they intentionally infect people on purpose. COVID also has shown us. They were having people not stay indoors when they were sick—shrugging it off to be something else. Which in hindsight, it shows that the person is a selfish ass and possibly a narcissist. Which it’s very understandable why people get a little comprehensive in believing someone sick. However, the irony of this is that they won’t think someone is ill but trust the person that is sick, which makes them believe lies that they were told. Where if you would identify the behavioral pattern of that individual, it would show you just the kind of person they are. Which when you look closely at that hunch you have about someone when you eliminate bias and stereotyping, you can see all the red flags about that person.
Until COVID, I don’t think people realized how delicate the balance is in society. It seems like we have lied for the sake of not causing panic, but that just causes something that you could have prevented. In the case of Harvey, we were told it wasn’t going to be wrong before it landed. Then the next thing you know its, a Category 1 to a Category 3. Which thankfully ended up calming down. But still didn’t save lives ultimately, which shows one thing about social norms. Why would we panic if we weren’t living in fear? Because the only way we panic, according to human psychological nature, it’s because we are face to face with the fear that we never thought we would face.
Recognizing this fact helped me understand people more. And in turn, it helped me the things that those who put up a good game face deflected. That when they end up using insults, it is mainly the fears and the things they feel insecure about. Which truth be told, is one thing that you begin to see in behavioral patterns. People become very predictable, which comes from a human need for order; our survival instinct is rearing its head as humans feel safe and secure when a routine is established. It gives that sense that we got it together. Which one thing we avoid, which many articles say that “human survival instinct has failed us,” is stemmed by convincing ourselves that nothing could ever go wrong. Which is pride rearing its ugly head. We talk ourselves into being so sure about things. We neglect to see the other outcomes that can make a solution go wrong, so I always had backup plans. Which many said I was “paranoid.” But it’s worked well for me since. Where they maybe sometimes that, I may have miscalculated something, but there is always a solution. And in my new state of mind, it’s meant to happen as it’s a learning lesson to make me wiser and more vital for the next rodeo.
Everyone is a critic, and we all know that. When it doesn’t fit into our everyday life, we reject it. When the truth is present and not convenient for us, we regret it. As people don’t want the truth, they want convenience. From food to sexual gratification is a touch or click away. Where those who feel worthless find someone more helpless than they are to boost their ego. Where you can pick up a meal in less than five minutes and curbside pick up electronic devices, we all got accustomed to living conveniently. Where if you think about it, the easier things become, the harder it becomes to adapt. And why everyone waits for this Era to pass.
Who’s to say if there is another era coming, that is far more worst. In these scenarios, hope becomes lost, and it begins to feel like it’s not worth living. But that’s not how we see things. That was apparent when my Great Aunt found out she had cancer and felt she would rather die. Was when the doctor told her, “You do have that option as we can put you on hospice if you don’t think you can fight,” she quickly changed her mind. And as cruel as it sounded when she felt like giving up and repeating the “I rather die” scenario reminded her that it was an option. I am glad she didn’t give up. As I never knew her as a quitter. But seeing this woman adapt to her new life and fighting like the warrior she is, it’s admirable. Which one of the things she always says is that “I’m sorry for being a burden.” I had to hold off on my book release due to financial barriers that were due to her Chemotherapy. Let me just say it isn’t cheap. Like I told her, “I’m happy to do this, and I am happy to struggle with you as it makes both of us stronger.” Eating breakfast with her today after coming back from a quick trip to Houston felt terrific. Which what I take from this setback is “strengthening my adaptation skills.” Who knows what life is going to throw that I will learn how to adapt too.