Psychology of Diligence

Diligence is something we hear about, but it’s not explained it feels. You hear “Do your due diligence” many times, but what does this really mean? Well the definition of diligence is as follows: careful and persistent work or effort. Where something I preach about, consistency goes hand and hand if you really think about it. One thing that we don’t realize we are currently working on due diligence in everything we do. Some struggle with it while others master it like a champ. From dating, to work, to planning, to entertainment. The one thing that I feel we all failed in a fast growing world, where we all feel we are competing at times, is the due diligence within ourselves. Where when we don’t do the due diligence on ourselves, it seems like no matter how much we try. It seems theirs a void. Where taking the journey I took which inspired the book “Journey of an Unraveled Road,” for once in my life I felt that I achieved self love.

In my journey, I remember i cried when I heard Whitney’s Houston’s “The Greatest Love” as I realized that I started to unconditionally love myself. Another song that made me cry in this journey is Selena Gomez’s “Lose You To Love Me” as I gained something that no one could ever take away from me, my dignity. Which has three definitions 1. the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect, 2. a sense of pride in oneself; self-respect, and 3. a sense of pride in oneself; self-respect. Which realizing that I had all three was truly a win for me. Some people tend to argue with me, in an attempt to psychologically manipulate me into thinking this isn’t the case for me as they attempt to point out reasons why I have no self respect, which one rebuttal to that is; I never let anyone verbally or psychologically abuse me. When they say I hurt others intentionally, my rebuttal to that is; if that person who believed they felt they could disrespect me in a sense of verbal abuse and psychological manipulation they were given three chances to respect my boundaries. Which shows they have no mutual respect. And when people say I am not classy based on my verbal defense, I point out one thing that many people fail to realize. That they have attempted a psychological manipulation called gaslighting. Which opens a whole can of worms and endless debate that points out the true intention of someone. Which being empathetic is water under the bridge, but if they are not genuine about the apology? Has them doing the same predictable behavior trying to find another cheap shot at me as the lack of self dignity that they have for themselves in their attacks to make another failed attempt to try to emotionally cut me down, turns into the realization that many people don’t seem to realize. That they became their abuser. As the truth of the matter of why dignity is no longer present at the time, they didn’t resolve the issues that are haunting them from whenever their abuse started. Which continue to use victimized tactics to get sympathy. Which then becomes a cycle that corrupts the individual due to the lack of persistence they refuse to take in their gluttony. Which in their wounded pride could be avoided if they would stop belittling me. Which comes from stereotyping due to a fear they have. Which in the end becomes discriminatory. Which if you look at the behavior pattern of that one individual, will show that they have a dark history of discriminatory bias.

The Characteristics of Diligence

Going back to diligence, one of the things that you must realize is that diligence doesn’t happen over night. Diligence takes time, which through my life experience takes the mastery of consistency. Which another truth of social conformity is that we all got conditioned somewhere along the line to make excuses for our down falls. One thing that I gained out of my consistency is that although I am not good at organizing as organizing becomes a over complicated task I over complicate as organization for me consist of presentation and artistic display. Which is why I need someone to organize for me and add the artistic touches. I will say I am great at time planing. As everything must align with a bit of wiggle room for worst case scenarios. One thing in this that makes me realize I have dignity, is I don’t beat myself up for the things that are out of my control. Where if it was in my control, I take accountability for improper time management. I find the problem and I create a solution. Now I am not going to dodge the flaw that I have in organization. Being an artist everything has to be optically aesthetic, which is something I am working on. Enough of the story times, here are some characteristics of diligent individuals according to

1) A diligent person is an excellent planner

2) A diligent person produces excellent work

3) A diligent person is faithful in everyday tasks

4) A diligent person pushes through obstacles of all kinds

5) A diligent person is self-motivated

Nevertheless, we can’t talk about dignity without following with the characteristics that people with dignity have, which includes the four types of dignity which are dignity of merit, dignity of moral stature, dignity of self image, and menschenwurde which is the universal dignity that pertains to all human beings to the same extent and cannot be lost as long as the person exists according to Lennart  Nordenfelt and Andrew  Edgar  in The Four Notions of Dignity Here are the qualities of people with dignity according to Skip Prichard

  1. Acceptance of Identity.
  2. Recognition.
  3. Acknowledgment.]
  4. Inclusion.
  5. Safety.
  6. Fairness.
  7. Independence.
  8. Understanding.
  9. Benefit of the Doubt. 
  10. Accountabilitye

In our current world of leadership, dignity is something I feel that any leader should possess. Which making the excuse that no one is perfect is nearly that. As once again in human nature, we are programmed to make mistakes. It’s about fixing those mistakes.

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To be fair, we all have experience some sort of conditioning to lose sight of dignity. From the things we were told as kids, to the things that we see in the media, and the experiences that we have in social media. Well now that you are aware of it, it’s what you do next to improve. Where those who truly want to gain dignity and diligence will attempt to get a grasp at it. Yeah they might fall a few times, but as long as they continue to get back up, they mastered not only consistency, but diligence and dignity. Which puts them a mile ahead of the game. Props in advance readers who continue to get up. This where we get the opportunity to gain a bit of empathy as one thing you must always remember is this “the lies that they tell themselves in the act of deflection which paints a picture of their insecurities is that they choose to be left behind. Which hopefully they will see the light one day and work to becoming a better version of themselves. One of the things I always like to use in the example is a clip form the Walking Dead as in the fall of Alexandria, some of those who chose not to leave was their choice stemmed by fear. Which in the end you have to wish them the best and hope they make it out alive. Which if the current theory of social zombification is a thing, you got to make it alive and realize not everyone can be saved. Here is the clip of the classic episode.

You matter in this universe and always remember that. You make an impact and set things in motion, no matter what you think. You’re meant to do amazing thing. The things that hold us back is the lack of diligence and dignity we have for ourselves, which is hard to grasp. As this concludes the blog series of “The Psychology of the Seven Virtues” I want you to take away something from this, while everyone is engaged in the sins, the way to make the change and gain your self back is through the virtues. We all have made mistakes in the past, but now is the time to change it and make your life better. Who cares what the Beckys, the Shanons, and the conformist do, if you want change, it’s time to make it happen. I hope this helped many of you in your journeys. But with that idealism in mind, tomorrow starts the series where I will dissect the “Journey of an Unraveled Road” and pick my brain for you. On what was going on in this head of mine when writing the chapters. Here are the chapters we will be discussing each and every day throughout this series:

  1. The Unknown Path to Freedom
  2. Pained Turned Beauty to Productivity
  3. Ugly Duckling Turned Beautiful Swan
  4. Breakaway Little Song Bird
  5. Solace from Solitude
  6. The Destructive Domino Effect
  7. Perception of Public Perfection
  8. Problems That Want to Be Solved
  9. Entitlement of Revenge
  10. The Big Small World We Live In
  11. Grandma Lives a Thug Life
  12. The Girl on Fie
  13. Goodbye Yellow Brick Road
  14. Freedom Rediscovered
  15. This Ends

Which according to a bitter person who shows envy, jealousy, and a bit of psychosis said this was a trash book that is used for toilet paper. My rebuttal to that was “They why did you buy the book.”

Published by Frieda Lopez at Frieda the Writer

Frieda López is the writer for Journey of an Unraveled Road who was born and raised in San Antonio, TX. Through her professional career in Customer Relations and Retail Management, she has utilized her experience and interactions with the behavioral patterns, which was used to start her personal journey with Journey of A Unraveled Road as her debut novel. She has completed philosophy, psychology, and theology courses at San Antonio College as well as creative writing courses. Frieda López has been a lifelong writer since 2nd grade. A survivor of childhood trauma, childhood abuse, and domestic violence, she wrote this piece, which started this book as her personal journey; works from home in San Antonio, TX.

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