The Psychology of Lust

Lust is defined as follows in a positive form of lust: a passionate desire for something. Where the negative form of lust is: a sensual appetite regarded as sinful. There is a healthy balance when it comes to Sin, as all sins are not as bad as they are perceived as balance is key. Human lust is part of human nature unfortunately and it’s about finding that healthy balance to help contain our survival instinct. Lust is the passion that we have for life and the things we become low key obsessive about. But there can be a negative form of this lust. Which is where “Crime of Passion” stems from. But if you really think about it, isn’t all crimes a “Crime of Passion” as in the negative indulgence, the crime committed is stemmed by that uncontrollable “desire for something.”

However, it has been reported that our survival instinct is failing us according to Jim Taylor Ph.D. from Psychology Today, our survival instinct is failing us. I feel that it’s our pride that culprit of that, as we tend to belittle a threat not realizing the severity of it. In addition to constant sheltering from all common threats as well as the gullibility that we have in manipulation. All wanting the same thing, for things to be better in the bandaids of life. Not dealing with the real issues at hand.

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The Difference Between Healthy Lust and Unhealthy Lust

According to Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW from Psychology Today, unhealthy lust develops from a early on attachment trauma (Robet Weiss Ph. D. Healthy Lust vs. Unhealthy Lust. Jan 14, 2020. explains this as an attachment trauma, an early form of relational trauma, occurs when there is some disruption in the healthy bond formation between a baby or child and his or her primary caregiver. Healthy attachment occurs when the caregiver provides comfort, affection, and basic needs on a regular basis and with consistency (What is Attachment Trauma. Which let’s be real, s the regular things all us kids have experienced, especially during this day in age of technology. One of the most common things I have encountered was young adults engaging in early on sexual lust as early as age 14, writing the book “The Journey of Others on an Unraveled Road.” It’s nothing to be embarrassed about or deflective about. Let’s be real, there are no true instructions manual on how to raise kids. We get in these self help books the things that work for raising obedient children. Which seeing some of these things, I am just thinking to myself like “WTF.” But the grim reality of it, is that psychology is a science that is just truly getting embraced by the world of medicine. The study of the human brain is a bit like opening a catacomb of hieroglyphics in our current world. As each one of us is mapped differently which is as unique as us and the journey we traveled thus far.

Using sex as an emotional crutch comes from early childhood but there are some positive emotions lust brings to light as well. Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. in her article Deconstructing Lust brings emotions such as but involves the experience of emotions such as bliss, excitement, joy, and interest, along with the anticipation of erotic sensory pleasure. Lust is not considered an emotion, but an action of these common feelings (Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. Deconstructing Lust. October 7, 2012. Believe it or not, lust is an action in the psychology world that needs further examination on. As lust is not completely cracked to this very day.

Needing a Sense of Balance

One of the shows that I’ve come to love is the Amazon show “The Boys” which expresses the psychology of all types of trauma. As the show is full of psychological problems that occurs on both sides. From the villains, which are the heroes that are meant to protect the world as a common stigma some of these have is the act of negative lust. Which in the story stems from the the trauma attachments they internalized. Regardless of their incredible abilities, they all have stigmas and internalized psychological complexes that they are fighting to maintain. Leaving a trail of unethical actions that are justified by these complexes they have. Which entitlement is the main motivator of their actions. They all have things that in pride they refuse to face as their internalized psychological problems, putting them deeper and deeper into the downward spiral of sin and immoral action. The monks said it best as they believed that the world is about balance of light and dark. We all have light and dark with us, which we need to be familiar with in order to keep that balance if we want to make things right in the world. As we are not innocent. We are all guilty of the same crimes, the same sins, and have acted in the same immoral standard as we all act on based on misconceived and misconstrued ways of coping with these emotions. We all are pushed by fear, stereotypes, and unrighteous act of how to cope with our emotions. In this dark world where we told to face our fears with immoral behaviors that are justified to be right, we always wonder why things never change, remaining in our fear. Which the fear that we have grows bigger and bigger with every bad action that occurs. Where both side are fearful and run from something. Where are bad behaviors we engage in are all stemmed by fear. The real question is when is society going to stop running, stop being fearful, and start doing things in righteous and rational mindset. Where for once, we can stop being afraid and start seeing who the real evils are. As in the end personal decision and free will start to reveal those who are truly surrounded in darkness that stems form a vendetta of internalized emotions.

Published by Frieda Lopez at Frieda the Writer

Frieda Lopez is a Texas Native, born in the heart of San Antonio's West Side Community. Frieda attended Lanier High School and primarily attended Memorial High School where she graduated with the class of 2001. Raised in a blended family dynamic, Ms. Lopez gained her noble character from the women she admired and loved the most, her grandmothers. Frieda attended Alamo Community College where she majored in Liberal Arts primarily studying on biology, sociology, philosophy, psychology, and creative writing and shortly attended University of Incarnate Word. She gained a MBA from AIU and has actively participated in local fashion shows until she moved to Houston returning back August 2019. She began her career in healthcare, where she gained the skill of being able to not only resolve conflicts but reach out and engage in the community through her time serving as health care relations customer care and outreach representative. After being let go from her employer which she last served as a Customer Relations Representative for DentaQuest, she began her journey in retail where she came part of the leadership team a month of working as a part time representative for MarketSource and build a relationship with her local Target team. She later served five years with Amtel T-Mobile as a Store Manger after moving to Houston to pursue a management position with unfortunately ended in adversity which opened the opportunity of writing her first book "Journey of an Unraveled Road" will be releasing her second book a fiction based series titled "The Rideshare Chronicles" with the first book to the installment titled "Destination Destiny."

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