We live life asking many questions that revolve around the what, when, where, why, and how? Mostly in the ultimate question that is, when will I be happy? When will it be my turn? Which, in my past mistakes, were circled a perception of a perfect world. In many of these scenarios, it set me up for catastrophic failures that just, in the end, enabled the insecurities that I already struggled with. Before the book, before my life coaching training. There was a moment that I was forced to reflect on the things that seemed constant in the aftermath of what seemed like the aftermath of my failed attempt in the things that I thought and convinced myself I did differently in life. My life coaching training made me see that we all have many emotional similarities and stigmas about ourselves. Becoming a Psychology Major made me know how these traumas and how these events in adversity affected our thinking patterns and our emotional and behavior patterns, taking my advanced training of life coaching with Awakening The Soul. It put everything into perspective more than I could ever imagine.
As I completed the training, I learned a technique that was called the Wheel of Life. A new tool that sheds so much light on what triggers us to feel the way we think. As we all may have experienced, life is not an easy thing to live. With so many obstacles and so many hurdles, it seems like we never will reach a balance that will fulfill our life. Not because we can’t or won’t. Because it all depends on the goals that we set for ourselves and how we have to work towards it? If you are a reader of my blogs, you know that I have down packed to an advanced level. But one of the things that I feel that maybe was my Achilles heels per se. Is that not everyone is at that level. Not because they have no desire or need to, it’s because of the map of that world. The way they see reality is what stops many of us from being the more fantastic version of ourselves. Which truth is given to us early on in our human development and by condition from family, society, and things we develop in the natural survival instinct that is biologically given to us as a tool to stay alive. Which consciously, subconsciously, and unconsciously can set us up for failure.
One of the things that I adapted. What is also proven from this training was that the work models and exercises I incorporated pave a new path in my journey. This program consists of the GROW and the SMART models that are usually used to help employees grow, which I used a lot when I was implementing developmental coaching as a manager, which was very useful in many employees. But failed to help those who, for whatever reason, relied on victimhood in getting through in life, which it worked for you this far. Hats off to you—but using this personally, early on in life. I realized that many cons follow with this. As living in victimhood is primarily enabled through the fears that we have that keeps us from stepping out of our comfort zone. When we attempt to step out of it, only our insecurities begin to eat us alive. And keep us in the darkness that we in those failed attempts, has us lose hope not only in life. But for ourselves. Which one of those behavioral triggers that we rely on makes us being defensive. In this state, we can’t truly decipher who and who doesn’t have our best interest as in this darkness, we remain in this state of fear that, after being so dependant on it, we struggle to get out of it, which falls back on the map of the world we possess.
Map of the World is how we see the world, in reality, we have created for ourselves. Because the truth is based on this training, we all have a reality we began that leads to one primary goal, what happiness looks like to us. Which in my fact, everyone is capable of doing good. This is a reality, but this blind perception depends on the person at the end of the day, which explains why many good people go wrong. Not because it’s in their nature, but because it’s a defense mechanism to protect them and keep them alive. This made me understand why empathy and integrity became part of my core values, which I never realized was of the utmost importance in this journey. Having a list of what those values make me has become the two critical values on my list. Which is something I suggest we all should develop. Which what I recommend building two, which is one now and one after your journey. Or if you have an idea of the before and after values beforehand. We are creating two. One that you currently live life and one you hope to see yourself again in the future. Reflecting on my journey in this new growth, I realize I was a subconscious and unconscious decision that I made to help guide those who needed that second party to figure out the things they struggled to recognize. As in the end, we always have the answers that we don’t see at the moment. Not because we are incapable. But because of the barriers that exist in our current reality.
Finding the balance is something that some of us struggle with, as belief or not, has a lot to do with the things that focus on our direct spiritual growth. As there are many versions of this wheel that focuses more on our material gains. The wheel used in life coaching focuses on oneself and what makes us happy and thriving, such as Career, Personal Growth, Attitude, and Finances. These four of eight categories focus on developmental growth. After doing mine, I realized where I needed to work towards more maximizing my happiness. In essence, this had me find a new publicist that shares the same common goals and can help me get to my desired destination to find a more harmonic peace within me. The truth is it’s something I unconsciously neglected in this perfect picture world I still sort of hold, thinking that things will work out in my favor. Which, in a sense, it does. When you put equal work into something called trial and error, you don’t work to attain your absolute happy self. Which in the end, that’s what life’s about, right? Living your best life as your best self. Being aware that in the future, we might not get everything we want. But in the end, we have a balance in our lives that keeps up wanting to move forward. Because let’s be real. Money doesn’t always buy you happiness.