That Victimhood Brings
I use this picture as this depicts the many faces that trauma and fear bring. I say this out of the experience as my life before my awakening. The truth is we tend to show all these facial expressions as this is the way that we attempt to cope with the traumas that we face in the past. The trust of the matter is that the reason why many people don’t get the help that internalizes these fears is due to the ill advice of their surroundings and a combination of the social norms that many seem to engage in. Following the same behaviors, others due that seem to have it all figured out. Only to find out that in their closed doors and when trust is established. Have those who have it together show a glimmer of the vulnerability they feel they can’t show the world. The perfect example of this is in the movie “The Devil Wear Prada.” In the iconic scene where Miranda breaks down in front of Andy after her husband files for divorce against Miranda. In the end, those who are deeply burdened with these traumas. End up putting a wall to let the world know that they can’t be phased in human nature’s predictability.
Insecurity is one of the triggers that trauma and fear induce as it enables self-doubt in those who have been struck and internalize these traumas that occur. Many of us tend to cope and forget the things that arise due to the good intentions people have when attempting to comfort those by saying one real thing. “It happens more often than we realize.” Which is fine and dandy. But one of the things that become a disservice to both involved is one thing. The fact that the trauma is accepted as the social norm. This enables the act of internalizing the trauma and, in any situation, allows the action of emotional triggers, which enables the first act in the trauma internalizing circle, which is passive aggressive behavior along with anti-social behaviors to begin feeling safe and secure from the potential threats that may or may not come.
In my experience, the loss of hope begins to develop as we start to find the sanctuary of saving grace in these situations. One of the most common feelings and observations I have seen based on public media in the bigger world is that in many cases, the emotional crutch that is most commonly used is finding someone who will potentially take the pain away or, if we are lucky. Someone to protect us from the dangers in the world. Which in many cases, like in my case. Tend to ignore all the warning signs that may occur when we seek in our partners. Or if we lean on family immediately, we tend to enable and tolerate the triggers that our trauma has us in the stage of PTSD. We tend to stay vulnerable and blind to those things as human nature in those we confide intend to begin engaging in their bad behavior, taking advantage of a vulnerable situation and in a cataclysmic occurrence, shaking up with someone who might be just as abusive or worst. We tend to stay blind to the things, emotionally depending on these outlets causing two things to occur. Strutting our emotional growth and enabling those who mean well to rely on those behaviors to contain their trauma and insecurities that they refuse to face.