The Double Edge Sword That is Victimhood

Many of us think of victimhood or a victimized mentality as an extreme behavior of making excuses for the things that people don’t tend to not take control of in their lives. However, there are many levels in the intentions of victimhood. Many of us, even though we may not admit it. Or tell ourselves that the things that we experience in trauma are a thing of the past. It’s a lie that we tend to say to ourselves to prove to the world that we have it together.

And most importantly, that we are okay. We see many things like behavioral health is something that is finally for years being more exposed, which is a great relief. The truth is, for the longest time, the things that I felt, the things that I did. All in the sake of social normality always left me with one lingering question. There is something wrong with me, which following the social norms in society were not working. I began to realize that it was starting to cause much more issues. They were triggering things that I tolerated—blaming myself for things that people who knew better as it was my fault that these things have occurred to me. What if I did something different? Maybe the outcome would be different. But the truth is that this behavior if you observe the current interactions you have had with these individuals. Is something that they have consistently been engaging in and acting on. Because the truth is that they still reside in that victimized mentality from a traumatic event that they experienced in their lives, that they, for the sake of self-preservation, engage in to protect that vulnerability they swore they would never experience in their life again.

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One of the things that we should gather from 2020 was that people were indeed not okay when the pandemic first started. Which one of the common psychological behaviors that occurred was the act of anti-social behaviors. Where many people started living in denial that COVID-19 truly existed. As the first sign of these anti-social behaviors was going against all provisions set in this pandemic as a health precaution. Many, due to not wearing PPE’s, became infected, infecting others. As many videos also showed the act of those infected, purposely contaminating public surfaces so others can get infected. Which has been happening for a long time. As many with STD’s deliberately have infected others since “if I can’t be healthy, no one can” mentality. Which is a sadistic behavior that shows the act of what Victimhood can do to those in that victimized mentality. Where fear and insecurity turns into a vendetta that, if you think about it, can be deemed as attempted murder in many cases. The ripple in this act alone and with growing cases, has had many people in fear and lost of hope, had many people self medicate, commit suicide, and in many increasing cases coming into suicide. The act of self-medication has shown drug overdoses were the most significant cause of death in 2020.

To start the year off with some helpful tips. We will review the effects that trauma and fear can enable us to do in many cases, not even know that we are engaging in. Even if this doesn’t apply to you, it may be something worth reading to catch that behavior before it goes into something you genuinely don’t mean to engage in. As many of our actions occur unintentionally. This year we will start the blog series with some preventative maintenance o

Published by Frieda Lopez at Frieda the Writer

Frieda López is the writer for Journey of an Unraveled Road who was born and raised in San Antonio, TX. Through her professional career in Customer Relations and Retail Management, she has utilized her experience and interactions with the behavioral patterns, which was used to start her personal journey with Journey of A Unraveled Road as her debut novel. She has completed philosophy, psychology, and theology courses at San Antonio College as well as creative writing courses. Frieda López has been a lifelong writer since 2nd grade. A survivor of childhood trauma, childhood abuse, and domestic violence, she wrote this piece, which started this book as her personal journey; works from home in San Antonio, TX.

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