Assumption – The Ego Killer

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There was a time when I use to assume the best case scenario would happen, eliminating the worst case scenario from the equation. Boy was I stupid to not putting into the equation the worst case scenarios in many of these hopeful situations. It’s not that I was being careless, I was following social norms as having a back up plan to the back up plan was a sign of me being “negative” in the of nay sayers. Which doing me in the end was the best thing I could ever do going into 2020. With another thing that people said I was being negative about was that “COVID would turn into a worldwide” pandemic.

In life, you have high hopes. But have to be realistic. One of the things that many people got to dependent on was “speaking things into existence.” Expecting things to materialize out of thin air, putting no work into it. As you all we all know that I talk about social behaviors in my blogs. A lot of people don’t take into consideration the work that goes into it. And although many may have luck on their side, what do you do when luck runs out? Having high hopes without a backup plan. Which one of the main things that many people in “superego” have always say “they don’t need a backup plan.” Which when reality hits. Makes those who were sure have a huge K.O. to the ego. Which a piece I provide “Being humble is key.” As not being so dependent on what’s look like a good thing, is the safest bet as it helps you develop a backup plan.

Most people will assume almost anything these days. They will assume the true nature of a situation, which in ego will have there dreams shattered like a bubble bursting. But why do people become overconfident anyway. It’s a combination on insecurities and learned behaviors. In other words they are lying to themselves about the truths. As in this writing venture. The frienemies who attempt to throw salt on my game in this writing venture. They start off by congratulating you until. You trigger a feeling of self doubt. Where those who think they are better than you will throw some low key shade at you saying something like “Is that all you have going for you.” Or someone else saying “you have issues” and “you think your better than everyone” or my favorite. “Anyone can self publish a book.” But when you ask them why haven’t you? They are quick to say something in the lines that “It’s not my thing.” Which many of thos friendnemies begin to attempt to make you think that you think “Eveyone is against me.” Which I am not the one pointing fingers and blaming others for the things that happens to them most “importantly.” Where those who say they are supportive, won’t acknowledge the things you right or ask you questions. The perception is in their assumptions and thinking of the worst case scenario “I am going to call them out on their bs,” which a song in my era always said “don’t start no shit. Won’t be no shit.” In this assumption that they think they have you figured out and in their emotional outburst, they attempt to bring your come up down. And trying to instill this sense of doubt in you by saying things. That when you know yourself, you know they aren’t true. Which none of the blogs I write talks about anything about how I am better than anyone else. Bottom line, I talk about the things I’ve learned from mistakes and my previous bad behaviors when I reference myself.

In many of these instances, I never give advise unless it’s asked for. At the end of the day, everyone needs to go through the motions and learn for themselves. Which is why it’s crucial not to always expect the best case scenario. Because life isn’t the best case scenario. As 2020 made very clear. Which many of us still dodge the realities that are happening, putting ourselves in more harms way. Didn’t you go into something, thinking it would work out better but the people around you just won’t let it happen to you because if they can’t have it, no one will. Same concept. At the end of the day do you. But never go into life with high hopes and not having a backup plan. Where if you stop taking things so personally and accept some of those beautiful flaws you have. You may end up living your best life. As peoples negativity start falling off of you like water. And who knows, you might just test yourself and see if some of these theories I say are true. Because truth is, it may not be as bad as we make it to be in the end.

Published by Frieda Lopez at Frieda the Writer

Frieda López is the writer for Journey of an Unraveled Road who was born and raised in San Antonio, TX. Through her professional career in Customer Relations and Retail Management, she has utilized her experience and interactions with the behavioral patterns, which was used to start her personal journey with Journey of A Unraveled Road as her debut novel. She has completed philosophy, psychology, and theology courses at San Antonio College as well as creative writing courses. Frieda López has been a lifelong writer since 2nd grade. A survivor of childhood trauma, childhood abuse, and domestic violence, she wrote this piece, which started this book as her personal journey; works from home in San Antonio, TX.

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