Assumption – The Ego Killer

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There was a time when I use to assume the best case scenario would happen, eliminating the worst case scenario from the equation. Boy was I stupid to not putting into the equation the worst case scenarios in many of these hopeful situations. It’s not that I was being careless, I was following social norms as having a back up plan to the back up plan was a sign of me being “negative” in the of nay sayers. Which doing me in the end was the best thing I could ever do going into 2020. With another thing that people said I was being negative about was that “COVID would turn into a worldwide” pandemic.

In life, you have high hopes. But have to be realistic. One of the things that many people got to dependent on was “speaking things into existence.” Expecting things to materialize out of thin air, putting no work into it. As you all we all know that I talk about social behaviors in my blogs. A lot of people don’t take into consideration the work that goes into it. And although many may have luck on their side, what do you do when luck runs out? Having high hopes without a backup plan. Which one of the main things that many people in “superego” have always say “they don’t need a backup plan.” Which when reality hits. Makes those who were sure have a huge K.O. to the ego. Which a piece I provide “Being humble is key.” As not being so dependent on what’s look like a good thing, is the safest bet as it helps you develop a backup plan.

Most people will assume almost anything these days. They will assume the true nature of a situation, which in ego will have there dreams shattered like a bubble bursting. But why do people become overconfident anyway. It’s a combination on insecurities and learned behaviors. In other words they are lying to themselves about the truths. As in this writing venture. The frienemies who attempt to throw salt on my game in this writing venture. They start off by congratulating you until. You trigger a feeling of self doubt. Where those who think they are better than you will throw some low key shade at you saying something like “Is that all you have going for you.” Or someone else saying “you have issues” and “you think your better than everyone” or my favorite. “Anyone can self publish a book.” But when you ask them why haven’t you? They are quick to say something in the lines that “It’s not my thing.” Which many of thos friendnemies begin to attempt to make you think that you think “Eveyone is against me.” Which I am not the one pointing fingers and blaming others for the things that happens to them most “importantly.” Where those who say they are supportive, won’t acknowledge the things you right or ask you questions. The perception is in their assumptions and thinking of the worst case scenario “I am going to call them out on their bs,” which a song in my era always said “don’t start no shit. Won’t be no shit.” In this assumption that they think they have you figured out and in their emotional outburst, they attempt to bring your come up down. And trying to instill this sense of doubt in you by saying things. That when you know yourself, you know they aren’t true. Which none of the blogs I write talks about anything about how I am better than anyone else. Bottom line, I talk about the things I’ve learned from mistakes and my previous bad behaviors when I reference myself.

In many of these instances, I never give advise unless it’s asked for. At the end of the day, everyone needs to go through the motions and learn for themselves. Which is why it’s crucial not to always expect the best case scenario. Because life isn’t the best case scenario. As 2020 made very clear. Which many of us still dodge the realities that are happening, putting ourselves in more harms way. Didn’t you go into something, thinking it would work out better but the people around you just won’t let it happen to you because if they can’t have it, no one will. Same concept. At the end of the day do you. But never go into life with high hopes and not having a backup plan. Where if you stop taking things so personally and accept some of those beautiful flaws you have. You may end up living your best life. As peoples negativity start falling off of you like water. And who knows, you might just test yourself and see if some of these theories I say are true. Because truth is, it may not be as bad as we make it to be in the end.

Published by Frieda Lopez at Frieda the Writer

Frieda Lopez is a Texas Native, born in the heart of San Antonio's West Side Community. Frieda attended Lanier High School and primarily attended Memorial High School where she graduated with the class of 2001. Raised in a blended family dynamic, Ms. Lopez gained her noble character from the women she admired and loved the most, her grandmothers. Frieda attended Alamo Community College where she majored in Liberal Arts primarily studying on biology, sociology, philosophy, psychology, and creative writing and shortly attended University of Incarnate Word. She gained a MBA from AIU and has actively participated in local fashion shows until she moved to Houston returning back August 2019. She began her career in healthcare, where she gained the skill of being able to not only resolve conflicts but reach out and engage in the community through her time serving as health care relations customer care and outreach representative. After being let go from her employer which she last served as a Customer Relations Representative for DentaQuest, she began her journey in retail where she came part of the leadership team a month of working as a part time representative for MarketSource and build a relationship with her local Target team. She later served five years with Amtel T-Mobile as a Store Manger after moving to Houston to pursue a management position with unfortunately ended in adversity which opened the opportunity of writing her first book "Journey of an Unraveled Road" will be releasing her second book a fiction based series titled "The Rideshare Chronicles" with the first book to the installment titled "Destination Destiny."

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