The Double Edge Sword of Society

The Conformity Behind Stereotyping and Discrimination

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One of the thing that I mention in my book “The Journey of an Unraveled Road” is that we all become someone’s stereotype, if we haven’t already been a stereotype to someone. Ironically enough the reality is that it is more frequent than we want to admit too. Although there is no un-biased or accurate statistic it’s safe to assume the entire world is stereotyped. Before you oppose of this news let’s break down the common stereotypes with gender. Have you been accused or assumed to be a certain way based on your gender? Have you been assumed to be a certain way based on your ethnic background? Have you been judged based on your generation? Have you been assumed to act a certain way based on the age you are? Let’s break down the social settings? Have you been excluded from certain activities based on your upbringing? Has your integrity been questioned based on your economic status? Or a past mistake? I can continue going on however it’s safe to assume that almost every person reading this has already answered yes to one or more of the questions asked. Ladies and gentlemen here is the reality you don’t want to admit to. You have confirmed that you have already been someones stereotype. Which let me tell you, you’re not alone. As I also have been exposed to this unfortunate truth more than I can remember. The ugly thing about this is that with the things I was naive and proud to admit too, comes the act of discrimination that I let happen. Which once you realize that you were discriminated, can be one of the most degrading traumas anyone can ever go through in life.

The Need For Empathy In Stereotyping

This sounds like I am encouraging people to sympathize with those who discriminate against us. Wrong. The truth is we all have also played a part in the conformity of stereotyping as we all have misjudged someone in our journey. Which I hate to say is also stereotyping. Why? Because the misjudgment is based on our risk perception of the things that we are ignorant to by no fault of our own. Many of us stay within our comfort zones and become exposed to only those people that we are use to. Which is okay to a point. Having a open mind about things is key if we want to surpass the bad behavior that is stereotyping, which fear plays a major part in it. Which social fear is the main cause according to (, as I have mentioned in earlier blogs as well as my blog last month on risk perception. We all tend to stay in our comfort zones to avoid the issues. But when trauma or deception happens in your own inner circle, it’s hard to escape it at that point. With COVID causing so many issues due to the internalized feelings that this traumatic event happens, it’s only a matter of time when the dangers become closer to home. And for some, knocking at your front door. Which facing your current demons and resolving your internalized emotional wounds, will begin the steps of breaking free from the chains. Which “Journey of an Unraveled Road” talks about how I did just that.

The Effects It Has On Our Society and Livelihood

Some of you all are going to hate for saying this, but I back the blue 100%. I feel that in today’s society they are demonized for the immoral action of the minority (those in gluttony of power evoked by their fears and traumas), which I empathize with them. Today, I had the pleasure of speaking with a few of these brave souls during my Uber driving today, which inspired this blog; and a lot of them agree that some of the traumas that they have faced in their jobs becomes internalized as many of them are belittled, shamed, and badgered for letting these things affect them not by their chiefs. But by their peers Which can turn into a deadly and unfortunate circumstance. But they are not the only one’s to blame on this. How many of you us have over dramatized a situation in a hurt ego and need for vindication that we bend the truth a little or make someone into something they are not. In many of these accounts, these officers act upon the call and how it’s presented which can cause harm that we have caused for someone. Which is why the dramatics and stretching the truth in the era of COVID is something we must avoid. It’s like the boy who cried wolf. Where the things we are feeling doesn’t match what we want as in many cases innocent lives are taken due to our own doing. On top of this, based on the risk preception of the officer who gets called, might be misguided on the call and have in their head that this person is a threat to others. Which in many stories shared, becomes just that. We don’t put ourselves in the other person’s shoes as we are in our own grief. But what about the officer? Many of these stories have occurred where they had to go through the process of forgiving themselves as they beat themselves up of the things they should of done from someone’s misguided depiction of what is actually happening. Many of us will say that they should know better. But haven’t you been in a situation when you falsely accused someone and lived with that guilt? Many of us have. Which is why empathy is needed to get passed the stereotyping.

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The Snowball Effect of Stereotyping Turned Discrimination

In fear we avoid the risks that we are afraid of. But when we perceive in stereotyping the fear in front of us in social fear, it turns into discrimination. Which is an illegal act of unfairness that ends up finding ways to get rid of the threat quickly in desperation. It’s a natural reaction to try to repeal those threats in a act of intimidation which when it’s ineffective, take extreme measures to get the threat away passive aggressively and aggressively which leads to blood on our hands in the act of murder. Irrational thought process is the cause of this and is the reason why so much injustice is done. The bystander effect and not doing anything is why we don’t see positive change and why things get worst. It’s the fear that lingers from both parties that keeps us from seeing the change we all want to see. We demonize and use bandwagoning to have people join our cause, which not being aware of that person’s mental state can have us guilty by association. Some getting away with it, but living in the guilt that comes with it. In a case where guilt is eliminated, it turns into a sinful and destructive path which some never turn back from. It’s the denial that continues these bad behaviors that becomes an addictive behavior that almost is hard to come out of. It’s not impossible, but what motivation would someone have in turning back if you think about it? The consequences and the possibilities of being incriminated, taking away their livelihood is far too much of a risk to take. Especially when you are crucified on the cross in this modern day society. Which is why it becomes hard to seek the change we all want to do. Which not knowing is another thing people bet on. Which is why bandwagoning is one thing we must avoid doing in this modern day society. Free will is what causes these individuals to take it to the extreme, but this is why you can’t beat yourself up about it. Yes accountability is key in stopping bad behavior, which is where you should start within yourself. Joining the cause and continuing the crusade only makes things worst, which in many cases can backfire making you the odd ball out. Forgiveness in ourselves is a must and a start if we want to stop the unfairness. In the end when faced with eternal judgment, would you rather be redeemed for changing your behavior? Or would you want to be condemned for the actions you were denial of spinning it to be a righteous act, which involves sin. I am not trying to convince you to see my point, but it’s something definitely worth thinking about.

Published by Frieda Lopez at Frieda the Writer

Frieda López is the writer for Journey of an Unraveled Road who was born and raised in San Antonio, TX. Through her professional career in Customer Relations and Retail Management, she has utilized her experience and interactions with the behavioral patterns, which was used to start her personal journey with Journey of A Unraveled Road as her debut novel. She has completed philosophy, psychology, and theology courses at San Antonio College as well as creative writing courses. Frieda López has been a lifelong writer since 2nd grade. A survivor of childhood trauma, childhood abuse, and domestic violence, she wrote this piece, which started this book as her personal journey; works from home in San Antonio, TX.

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