I can’t even imagine the hell you guys are going through at the moment in the presents of pandemic. We all have seen how some of the erratic behaviors that have come to light. I mean to be fair, we are currently in a pandemic so I get it. Whether it be remotely or face to face, I am sure your still having to deal with that horrible boss. I have had my fair share of horrible bosses, to be technical, a whole network of them at my previous employer. The Movie Horrible Bosses by Warner Brother Pictures was the perfect depiction of this.
WHEN SHIT HIT THE FAN
In my scenario I dealt with the psycho, the womanizer, and the tool, all at once at my previous job with Sprint which is now part of T-Mobile. (Spoiler alert) So in the sequel to this movie, we dig deeper into two of the characters where we find a little more info on our psycho and our man-eater. As this is accurate to real life, I know we all go through something, which let’s be real and thankful for those who caused the trauma that was two years ago. Like always, the tools are easily replaceable, which is the persona that illegally fired me back on August 1, 2019. I am very grateful for this fate as it only inspired me to make a living on helping those find peace in the madness that is the burning world we live in. Truth is, I surpassed my own expectations as punishing a book wasn’t the only thing I did, I have auditioned for American Idol, television appearances starting on a small scale is slowing starting to be major appearances as depending on the pandemic will determine how soon we can get on those shows, working on my first fiction based book series with the potential of being a series: about a everyday girl turn heroine trying to find her place in the world and discovers her destiny is saving the world with her band of misfit badasses, working on the self help series that helps those cope and heal from trauma, dependency, and how to deal with the assholes of the world, and now also a contestant for The Fashion Hero Season 3 contestant. Not bad for a no name nobody that my previous management swore I would get no where.
Hey, in the end I feel that no one is a hopeless case if they really want to and stay consistent in it. I really believe that the complexes we low key have is what makes up be the assholes that we really are. In the end we must focus on what’s best for us avoiding and working towards not being these assholes of the world. In the words of Kelly Clarkson “we are all misfits living in a world on fire” and if you really think about it, we pretty much are. Enough about me, let’s get back to how to tackle this common problem that we all have dealt with if not in the past, currently. If you are dealing with this currently here are some tips on how to help you overcome this horrible and unnecessary situation.
HOW TO DEAL WITH A HORRIBLE BOSS
The two most essential pieces of advise that I have is
- Always stay one step ahead of the game (CYA is most important part in this)
- Act like a leader and empower yourself always
- Make sure your boundaries are set and enforced.
According to the The Muse, these are part of the 10 steps in dealing with a “difficult boss” (https://www.themuse.com/advice/10-brilliant-tips-for-dealing-with-a-difficult-boss).
1. Make Sure You’re Dealing With a “Bad Boss”
2. Identify Your Boss’ Motivation
3. Don’t Let it Affect Your Work
4. Stay One Step Ahead
6. Stop Assuming They Know Everything ( this was my biggest mistake btw)
7. Act as the Leader
8. Identify Triggers
9. Use Tips from Couples’ Therapy
10. Avoid Future Bad Bosses
A BAD BOSS MAY NOT BE A BAD BOSS
Hey we all have made the mistake of misunderstanding a boss due to personal feeling. They may be a little more invested in us because they see the potential that we may have. Don’t be passive aggressive if this happens as being transparent and setting boundaries is crucial in this step. Do you know how many times I misconstrued the intention. Thank goodness for my individuality as I always made my own informed decision as I was anti-bandwagon. You have that group of co-workers who all agree and believe the same thing. If you think about it or even ask, you will never get a genuine answer as they all sound like a broken record. Speaking up and having a one on one with this individual is crucial. It also helps you identify their motive and see how things will play out and truly determine if they truly are a horrible boss. Make sure when you do this, don’t be a asshole either. Make sure that you leave emotion out and remain rational. Rationality is key and helps you leave out personal feelings. You will be surprised how amazingly it works.
We all have something going on. Even bosses. I hate to say it, that leave your personal problems at the door is a huge pile of BS. You have the Becky’s and the tools working to the bone on purpose as this is their emotional crutch. We all have an emotional crutch. That’s when you engage in an act of kindness. I mean Becky may not be ready to be a better person, but at least you planted the seed of kindness. Even if the bitch don’t appreciates it, you did your good deed in trying to instill a moment of thoughtfulness in someone’s life. You’re not doing it to be liked, your doing it for you. One of the things I realized is engaging in these acts instills a feeling of gratitude and makes your frown turn upside down. Hey, how do you think I’ve been able to stay positive even during a pandemic. Until next time.
Harvard from Da Hood