So I hate to say this, but guys have it worst when it comes to the vicious game of gender roles. However, they also make it a little tough to fight for their honor as many f them tend to use that same stereotype against women and the female persona. My experience has shown this to be just exactly that, as when you stand side by side your male counterpart, they tend to think it’s a way to get back at them or even catch them in a more vulnerable state. There are many perceptions women have when it comes to men, that they are being jerks, they are heartless, they are the scm of they earth, but gender roles and social norms have a lot to do with this misperception. It’s not that men have no feelings, it’s that social norms have conditioned them to hide those feelings, very well. However, human nature as we all possess that beautiful flaw is that holding o. ne’s feelings in, leads to a fear complex that results to anger issues. Which if men would stop the nonsense of holding these emotions, can lead to a more productive and satisfying life. Check out the link to the article.
WHY DO MEN HOLD EMOTIONS?
One of the things that I know from my own personal experience is the fear of rejection. I hate to break it to us ladies, we are partially to blame for this. One of the things that men don’t realize is how unfair it really can be for us in the real world. In attempts to find a good argument in finding creditble articles, it safe to say that we need a deeper psychology when it comes to men, as many of the articles are just about how men interact in relationships, saying that they are the biggest cheaters, which is biased and unfair straight up. Since we know that fear is the ultimate trigger of anger, it’s safe to say a man will become cheaters if they are in the presence of fear. Fear is the biggest determinate of male erratic behavior, which why as females, must be wiling and able to lower a guard down in order for a man to be able to open up. However since it takes two to tango, a man must also be willing and receptive to engage in this activity.
Being raised by my dad, I have seen the discriminatory actions that have been used against my dad. One of the things that y father was always told was that he wasn’t fit to raise a child. Well lets just omit that theory out the window and see the glory that can occur when a male raises a child, a female persona at that. The end result was a headtrong, determiened, and percistent little big fire cracker deemed a future activist, humbled and compassionate. Which after getting off the narssastic bandwagon, made me realize my dad journey was just as rough, if not worst.
The Tale of My Dad’s Journey
My dad had it hard when he tried to get custody of me when I was five years old. Seeing things for how they are now, it breaks my heart to see him even appear to give up on his battle of walking again amid his stroke. Regardless of the relationship my mother and I had, one of the things that he always taught me was to never have any hate towards my mom. To this day, I have succeeded with that creed. My dad has never been an inactive part of my life. Always being the biggest fan but always tapping into that fear and the immediate action that men take when they are fear, resulting to deflection and anger, which thanks to him I feel like can understand why men become the way they are. It’s a lifetime of trying to figure out their place in this fuckery called social norms. The day I was fighting against my justice the first things he said was “you will never win against a multi-million dollar company” which made me realize what was really going on. It wasn’t that he didn’t believe in me, it was that he was afraid of what was going to happen in the mist of this battle. When he acted out, he temporarily disowned me, but the truth is this is what I needed to become what destiny was meant for me to be, stand on my own completely to stand up for an injustice, as no one stood by my side is turning point in my life. Thanks to the values, the lessons, and the struggles that my own father faced, in addition to putting the values of realizing that “we” are not the only one’s that struggle, but also pointing out the struggles that my abuela’s went through and the sacrifices they had to face, made my solo debut and arsenal much more powerful. Of course with the battle facing alone without my dad being by my side, which he admits would of possibly hindered my win, which the only win I needed was to get the self respect that was unjustifiably taken from me, which hearing the recording when my boss says “Frieda, I swear to God if you don’t stop retaliating the only thing you will do is shake your ass and give head for a leaving” which to this day still pisses him off.
Empathizing with the male persona has been one of the most greatest gifts I could have ever gained in this journey. But it also becomes my biggest curse as I can already tell when the male persona is being passive aggressive and makes me waste time in the end because of the fact that they really think I am that naive. When you can identify the real problem and the fear that men have when it comes to confrontation and the empty intimidation they put behind it, it becomes really annoying. But in hindsight, sometimes it doesn’t turn to just an empty threat. The anger and the rage they gain when they think it’s a personal attack becomes dangerous, which only stems from the resentment they hold when it comes to the emotions they hold, which becomes an injustice to themselves. My question is “why allow yourself to be misunderstood when your capable of living your happiest life and accomplish the great things you were meant to do?” Like I have said before the battle against systematics isn’t a fight that one can do alone. It’s a battle that we all must be a part of. One of the most common things that we all face in the systematics is the unfairness it leads to as many companies use this as leverage, taking advantage of these vulnerable situations. For instance, in my current and petty battles, Toyota Financial received payment of a Gap claim that they sent to collections, having me do the extra leg work to try to get the documents that their company should already have as I signed up for their insurance when I first bought my car. After doing some additional research, the payments and the interest were the makings of institutional discrimination as based on the research, my payment was way more higher than the average White American in the United States. Pointing out that even business to consumer relationships engage in these type of bad behaviors. If you don’t believe me, here is the statistic in this matter and the article from Forbes magazine.
What Are Your Thoughts?
In the end, the perception of one’s individuality will play a part in the way we perceive the way this data is analyzed. In the end, I am no one to change your mind. But there obviously is a criss on our hands that we just intentionally neglected. What are your thoughts on the matter? Do you think men are truly afraid or just programmed to be jerks? Do you think the systematic crisis is a thing? How do you think we will be able to fight against this?