A Social Behavior Hangup – Blitz Behavior From Social Norms

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Addiction is defined as : the fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity. Most will say that their they know that there is science to addictive behaviors that has concluded many theories of which has now 6 different models since the 16th centuries. Consider this as having a heart transplant procedure change and as the success rate of recovery is very slim. Based on the origins of where we began to see the behavior pattern of what behavioral addictions looked like, which it has been recorded to decades in the many religious theology, however many which associate this with sin has been changing the way certain behaviors are perceived, which is why the science behind which within the most recent additions have noted in 2002 that some of these findings have been as follows:

“addiction-specific phenomena and diagnostic criteria such as craving, excessive behavior, psychological and physical withdrawal symptoms, loss of control, development of tolerance (increased behavior range) and inducing and perceiving expected psychotropic effects (e.g., pathological gamblers use several slot machines at the same time). n addition, the high comorbidity of behavioral addiction and substance-related addiction suggests comparable etiological mechanisms for their development.”

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3354400/

Which truth is we have a long way to go in being able to identify the real issues that some people can cause from the gecko.

I begin with this quote which a site that gives tools for these behaviors because the truth is, even psychologist deflect some of these certain behaviors as “addiction” is a tabu word. I mean lets think about for a minute there are certain things that we have emotionally crutched on before. I mean you see it in everyday social norms where people lie to people because they don’t want hurt someones feelings, or there are certain things that people tolerate on purpose and lie to us in our face because they are concerned and fall into the same situation almost every time. Journey of an Unraveled Road in the end, now seeing the bigger picture of what I have done is this: I talk about the triggers I would do to stay busy (busy work is also defined as a behavioral addition) which in the end never got finished and never got completed because of the fact that in that behavior I kept on dodging certain feelings and making sure those feelings were bottled in. In turn this ended up burning me out at work, but overall which disabled so much of my rationality I gained. I admit this because I fixed it, I know when I need breaks, when I need to stop in a middle of a project, and just keep three things currently working, making notes for anything I think of after projects done, and reassuring I reevaluate the steps. I talk about the behavioral patterns others engage in and the preceptions that come with it , which keeps people from advancing in anyway shape or form. Triggers which the “need to feel valued by people” also becomes an behavioral addiction, which the “I am okay” is another behavior pattern that you end up relapsing to, which takes many on a slippery slope. It has me wondering why it’s binge eating, emotional eating, getting drunk in the means of partying is all not called for what it is. Because calling it as such would have not rationally be able to make conscious decisions and do the things we all see happening in COVID. I will say this, if your not getting a consistent result on something take those steps to do the conditioned thing. Going the opposite way will help you see that it might be just that. People handle things different so whatever you need to assure this is not hindering your progress, I can guarantee you that things will start turning around. Not what you expected but everything that you need so when you earned the things you want, you may realize you never needed that for yourself. This is sensitive to say but do this on your terms and when you’re ready.

I will say this, gaining the ability to be comfortable and trust yourself more than your confidant, you will definitely get this packed. Looking at it in the clinical perspective it may also be a behavioral pattern on tearing someone down and making them doubt themselves on purpose is what is most likely an addiction. They say that when your addicted to a chemical dependency, the person can’t be trusted with no materialistic value. I would say it’s safe to assume you can’t trust them with your emotions. Get to know that amazing self of yours. When you avoid people completely you might want to start reconsidering the steps. Quick shortcut, if it’s the what ifs that play in your head, stop and retrace. Getting to know yourself is probably the best way of recourse when dealing with this individuals you don’t want to trust with your emotional wellbeing.

I will admit to this, I feel I am waiting or betting on a plan to go bad that had nothing to do with me, but everything to do on the things people did to sabotage the situation. As “addiction” typically is that quick high you get for the moment that goes away quickly when you come down is the same things in sabotage as they for whatever reason have a trigger thinking that this is going to be forever. You see why so many people bounce back and forwards in social groups they are involved. You might be better off saying “Bye Felisha” as you are the most important thing in this journey. If you feel like this is a consistent situation, you probably have someone who is doing this out of a behavioral addiction. Many people become so conditioned and the person relapsing this emotional high always has that partner in crime that assures that high stays put. With this say that is why your boundaries need to consistent and universal and not lowered for people for any excuse they give. Little do we know, but we are the ones giving them that emotional fix by not telling them how it is. Which explains why certain people become worst and worst.

As you can see there is so much I am finding out even after the journey. It’s surreal and bittersweet when you think about it as ironically I was fighting so many causes which now adds behavioral addictions, which also has proven in some of my accounts to help some successfully get out of those patterns and some who still struggle. Admitting your addicted to a chemical or a behavior is scary. The scary part of it though is doing something (the emotion being the drug) you don’t even realize you are doing as we have become so conditioned to accept it as our daily norm. I am not pointing fingers or I am not blaming anyone. The unfortunate thing is that emotions are free, we have carte blanche to finding it in anyway shape or form because truthfully we will find a way to get that feeling anyway we can. Which the effect in a catastrophic situation has pushed someone to a breaking point as your actions may be triggering a unresolved traumatic issue that you know nothing about. It’s an epiphany that in reality me “saying your becoming your attacker” is maybe a learned behavior you gained in that experience as the misperception of reality didn’t match what social norms deemed. But then again social norms hasn’t be concrete on everything either way. The truth is there are not concrete treatments in this issue since it’s totally new and totally easy to remove, like the addiction to cellphones and the internet we all of a sudden stopped hearing about. The truth it there might never be a concrete solution for this as this is easy to discuise to yourself and to those not aware. Some of those behaviors are as follows:

  1. unsuccessful attempts to quit a bad habit
  2. Cue-triggered relapse (finding the excuse why your doing this)
  3. loss of control
  4. Desire without pleasure
  5. Staying vigilant
  6. Cross-addiction
  7.  Self-medication
  8. Genetic vulnerability
  9. Substance abuser” vs. addict
  1. unsuccessful attempts to quit a bad habit
  2. Cue-triggered relapse (finding the excuse why your doing this)
  3. loss of control
  4. Desire without pleasure
  5. Staying vigilant
  6. Cross-addiction
  7.  Self-medication
  8. Genetic vulnerability
  9. Substance abuser” vs. addict
  1. unsuccessful attempts to quit a bad habit
  2. Cue-triggered relapse (finding the excuse why your doing this)
  3. loss of control
  4. Desire without pleasure
  5. Staying vigilant
  6. Cross-addiction
  7.  Self-medication
  8. Genetic vulnerability
  9. Substance abuser” vs. addict
  10. Addiction is not limited substance abuse

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/science-choice/201702/10-patterns-addictive-behavior

I included the link just in case you want to dive deeper into it. But once again that is for you on your own terms to decide. In your own time. Truth is I really want to see you get past this hurdle, because like always, I will meet you at the finish line. It is not quite how I planned this blog to be, but things happen how they need to happen. Hey it has me questioning some of my new routines might be my next hinderance, but hey if we admit we and identifying a behavioral pattern. The quicker we can stop it. Have a great day everyone and tomorrow we will move on to more on what is dating in this new day in age where people use this to have easy access on enabling their “behavioral addition.” Hey the experience might be something they needed to save their life someday. And just in case you want to get that book to see what I see, here’s the link to it.